This comment on my music video is an example of why I started So Worth Loving. By not accepting ourselves for who we are we lash out at other people. We are all guilty of it- including me.
Before you read this post please know my intentions. I did not decide to write about this comment to seek compliments or to seek revenge. My goal was to simply remind myself of the impact of my words as well as bring awareness to the effects of what we put out there on the interwebs. Receiving this comment was a great reminder to me that I need to be careful with what I say about others. Words hurt people. We have power in what we say.
With my profession I am bound to come across people that do not like me, my style, my music, my lyrics, my fashion, my hair, my tattoos, my shortness, my tweets(haha) and I totally understand that. I respect different opinions and tastes. What I don’t respect is bullying, verbal hate towards others, and non-constructive criticism. Now this is NOT the first time I have seen a comment full of hateful negativity come to my way.
We live in a society where we can say whatever we want. We can broadcast whatever we feel and think through social media and that is amazing. We are able to bring attention to causes, illnesses, and things that need an army of supporters but unfortunately people abuse that freedom. For those that abuse it - they often have no consequence to what they say on the internet. When it comes to my online world, my policy is simple. If it’s not constructive criticism then I delete it. When you say something negative (like the above picture) on the internet I don’t think you should have the privilege of this kind of freedom. At least not in my own personal Internet space.
When I saw this my first reaction was hurt. Major hurt. I didn’t understand why a random person would say such a hurtful and disturbing thing to me. I am sure you have experienced it on some scale as well. Then I realized… I don’t know this person but I do know one thing - they must be battling something internally about themselves that they are taking out on me. Maybe they said this because of self hate, of feeling unworthy of love, or maybe dealing with a really horrible week. I’m sure at some point in all of our lives we have had moments like that.. I don’t know why they said it but I do know that we can’t control what others say but we can control our response.
I choose to ignore this comment for two reasons. 1. Because I don’t think it is true and 2. Because it does not do my life any good to believe in this comment.
I started So Worth Loving because just like a lot of us- I have been a victim of bullying growing up because of my shortness. I was the runt in every class I was in. I got called names CONSTANTLY. I also had my share of talking about others because I felt bad about myself. That is why I feel if we truly accept ourselves we can love others much easier. That is why So Worth Lovings tag line is: “Love You Love People”.
We are designed the way we are for a reason. There was no mistake. Embrace yourself and LOVE others. Ok… that was my soapbox… hope it wasn’t tooo painful ;)