Whispers when I walk by. Snappy comments, disguised as compliments or jokes. Talking behind my back when they don’t think I can hear or it won’t get back to me.
You don’t think I notice? The stares, the obnoxious smiles.
After being on this earth for 30 years…it’s getting old.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’
Actually, who are you not to be?
― Marianne Williamson
It’s not just people talking about me. I had once had a girl say she didn’t like me because I smiled too much. I have had people sit me down and tell me that I am “too much”. And then there’s the people who want to be around you until they feel like you’re taking too much of the attention from them.
I have grown up surrounded by love. I have been told since I was old enough to understand, that my life has worth, that I can be anything I want and that I am loved. Blessed am I, to live a life where I have understood my worth (most of the time) and been able to flourish. For this, I am grateful. It’s because of this, that I joined SWL. I wanted to spread the message…not to combat my own insecurities, but to help the vicious cycle of insecurity and unworthiness that causes so much tension and strife in our world.
Apparently though, this makes me a target. Being confident, knowing my value, having dreams, ideas and talents.
Crazy eh? I’m sure there are many of us out there who have had moments where we can’t seem to understand the reaction we’re getting from someone…
It’s almost like they’re saying “let’s go after the one with the confidence. Let’s go after the girl or boy who is actually smiling”.
Recently I had someone in my life decide that what was going on in my love life or, actually what they construed to be what was going on, was their business.
I had to ask myself, when did we get to a point where we feel that we can comment on others lives? Sadly, we live in a culture of voyeurism, self-righteousness and judgment.
Admittedly, my first reaction wasn’t the most pleasant or what I could say I was proud of; it caused me to be enraged (thankfully privately), but it also made me realize something about myself that really needs changing…and I bet that it’s true for a few more people than me…
The truth is, that the people who are teasing, envious, jealous. Those people who feel the need to judge others, those who believe that they are better…
They’re insecure and they need to realize that they are worthy of love and have value.
We each have one life to live and a responsibility to do the best with that life. Love yourself, love others.
Why do we care about the opinions, thoughts and criticisms of those who have no vested interest in our lives? Those who do not care about us? Those who do not love us?
Why do we weigh the opinions and thoughts of those who are insecure, jealous, envious and sometimes just plain mean?
For the same reason people are mean, jealous and insecure. I believe it’s a desire to be wanted, to be accepted, to be loved…it’s inherent in each of us.
Here’s your challenge. My challenge for 2014.
Let’s not allow others opinions of us hurt us or affect what we feel about ourselves. Let us shine and unlock that within others.
Surround yourself with people who lift you up, push you forward and challenge you to be the best. Be that person in someone else’s life…watch your tongue before you gossip; catch yourself before you discuss someone else’s life.
Let’s stop being curious about that which isn’t our business. Let’s remember that life isn’t a pie…it’s a river…there’s plenty of blessings, talent and opportunity for us all.
Just because you are given an opportunity or a blessing, it does not mean that I won’t.
Let’s spread the love.
Written and loved on by Michelle Plett