Recently I watched the Victoria’s Secret annual fashion show, and it got me wondering; where did the definition of sexy originally come from? You could trail it back decades, but nothing compares to the images and messages we see today. But why is there not only a definition of sexy, but why do we feel like we have to be it?

The word “sexy” does not, and will never define us; just as our outside appearance never defines us either.

A simple thing like watching TV can be tolling on our minds when we see the flashes of the newest weight loss supplement, or beauty products to “fix every flaw.” Why don’t we see our flaws as something that makes us human rather then negative?

Some will claim the media isn’t doing the harm. If it’s not just the media, what is putting the image of beauty in our heads? It can be a challenge to find the source of all the negativity in the media, but it’s easier if we realize we are so much more then what a commercial defines us as. This doesn’t only apply to women. Men feel as if they have to have the 6 pack, the right hair, height, etc. If only ignoring what others thought was easy.

I’m taking it as my personal challenge to invest as much time on my inner self as the average person spends on their outside appearance; because nothing about the way we look defines our worth, and we should never feel as if it does.

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