By Nicole DeSantis
Please don’t leave because your baby is screaming.
I know how long it took you to get ready to come here. I know that you fed and changed your baby before coming so they would be content while you try to shop.
I know how long it took you to get here. I know how strenuous it is to take out and unfold that stroller or how heavy it is to carry the car seat and to maneuver it in that bulky cart.
I know you are not fully focusing on what you need to buy because you are trying so hard to make this motherhood thing look normal and that you want to look like you have it all together.
I know that you are avoiding the cookie aisle because you feel like your new mom body will never look how it used to.
I know that you need some time away from the endless loads of laundry, full sink of bottles, and floors that still have crumbs from the breakfast you attempted to eat with no plate or napkin.
I know that feeling you get in the pit of your stomach and the beads of sweat that form when your baby starts to cry when all you want is to enjoy this short moment. I know that you have already done everything you thought you could do to keep your little one from screaming. I know that it is out of your control and there is nothing to stop it.
I know that you think people are staring at you and they are saying to themselves that you are a bad mother.
I know that you want to find the closest emergency exit and run out or somehow just magically disappear. I know you are probably telling yourself that you should have never left the house and this was a bad idea.
New Mom, I am here to tell you please don’t leave the grocery store.
I have been in your situation more times than I can count and it is still not easy for me. There are other mothers here that know what you are going through and have also been in your shoes. You may not see, but you have a whole support system in every aisle of this store and we are rooting for you. We support you and we know you are doing your best at this motherhood thing.
I know you are tired and all you wanted was to go shopping alone like you used to before having your baby.
I know that you love your baby more than anything, but adjusting to this new normal is hard.
If you still choose to leave, I will understand but as long as you come back that is all that matters.
I know that something as simple as a trip to the grocery store can be a big deal to us, so I want you to return knowing that you are fully supported and you are amazing human.
A fellow mother and friend