By Kayla Zilch
Here is a hard-hitting truth that I dare you to bite down on:
The right person might not be the right person forever.
You might fall in love with someone, or build a deep friendship with a person, only to find out a little later on that you are a climbing vine and they are a trellis that only goes as far as the second story.
But you were meant to climb to the sky.
At this point, it is acceptable and necessary to say, “I love you, and I thank you for who you’ve helped me to become.” Then, you let them go – for to hold on would damage not only you, but them, as well.
When the weight of who you are becomes too heavy for someone to hold, don’t criticize them. They are simply growing at a slower rate than you are, and there is no shame in the process.
Growth and life are not competitions.
You simply thank them with the graciousness they deserve – after all, it’s with their help that you’ve reached your new heights – and you send them back into the world with a blessing of peace.
This willful surrender of what was once yours and what no longer is creates a boomerang effect, with the love you’ve cultivated and now released spinning around the sun once or twice, perhaps for longer than you’d like, before finding its way back to you – often in a different form, in different skin.
And so it goes.
Sweet friend, don’t be afraid of the letting go.
We’re taught so often that our worth and importance is tied up in our ability to restore, to re-create, to white-knuckle our way through life, love and just about everything else.
That’s just not true.
People are not objects to cling to for dear life.
If a person wants to leave, let them go. If you want to leave, look deep inside yourself, and discern if you are doing so because it is easier, because you’re afraid. Perfect love casts out fear, darling.
Promise yourself that you will never do anything out of fear. But if it is truly time to move on – and only you will know when that time is – do it and don’t look back.
Love them enough to set them free.
Love yourself enough to know when you have reached a new level of radiance and can only continue climbing with the assistance of a higher love.
Keep your face turned towards the sun, and don’t cast a glance backward over your shoulder.
The drop, the risk of falling, is all an illusion.