By: Hannah Shlapak
I think it can be really easy to feel alone when it comes to whatever we are struggling with. “No one could possibly understand”, we say, when in reality, while no one may have experienced our EXACT situation, people can relate, if not at least be understanding. We hide in our bubbles of safety, pretend that our problems are non-existent, and we forget about the other people around us who are doing the exact same thing we are doing.
I’ve recently been struggling with some issues in my life and I’ve been feeling kind of down in the dumps. Music tends to be my sweet release, as it is for many others. I’ve been into Jon Bellion’s music for well over a year now and there’s one song I return to when I feel isolated and sad. The title is “Morning in America” off of his The Human Condition album. I’m only going to debunk a few of the lyrics, since some of the verses in the song are a little more adult-themed, but the message is of pure intent and one that I feel is important to hear.
The song starts out explaining the story of a young person who seems to be doing pretty well in life and whose parents are going to buy them a brand new vehicle as a reward for their good grades. It then states the young person’s struggle with ADD.
What comes next sets the theme for the whole song:
“I’ve been trying to keep up with all of these great expectations
So I keep on faking”
How often do we feel the burden of maintaining a “perfect” exterior so that we can impress our bosses, friends and family? We bury our problems and pretend everything’s okay. And the thing is, everyone does this at least once in their life. Some do this every day. At some point, it becomes too much and we either break or change who we are as human individuals. The point I want to drive home though is that we are much less alone than we may believe. People from all walks of life are struggling with their own issues, both similar and worlds away from what we may be experiencing.
The song continues into the chorus and towards the end we hear these words:
“Yeah, we’re secretly out of control and everyone knows
Oh, it’s morning in America”
We now know that everyone is doing this, but many still continue to maintain a perfect exterior. It’s just another day in this world of covering up the things we deem too “ugly” for others to know about.
This song is a bit heavy, but it really drives home. We are reminded that we are not alone. We are good enough, even though we may feel that we have skeletons in our closet or issues to be ashamed of. So many other people have their own skeletons. The standard of “perfection” we may hold ourselves up to in order to prove our worth is unrealistic and hurts only ourselves in the end. I’m not saying we shouldn’t strive to be our best self, but I believe that we shouldn’t be burdened by the weight of impressing others.
I strongly encourage you to check out Jon Bellion’s music. The messages are truly inspirational and down to earth.
Be a little kinder to yourself. Remember that you are always good enough, that you are worthy of love and that you are never alone, no matter how isolated you may feel right now in this moment.