By: Molly Mackenzie
How familiar does this sound? You wake up, maybe after snoozing the alarm one too many times, and stumble around until you find an acceptable outfit to wear for the day. You step up to the mirror to assess your handiwork and think, "this will have to do" or "ugh, why is my hair doing that thing where i look like a cactus". You walk away from the mirror, resigned to the fact that this is as good as it's going to get today, and move onto the next part of your morning ritual.
Or how about this one? You get recognized for something you did well, whether it be praise at work, or reaching a new goal and someone congratulates you for it. They say something like, "i heard about you getting promoted!! congratulations that's so amazing, you deserve it" and you reply with, "oh thank you, it's not that big a deal.. i just applied for an open position".
We have this tendency to downplay our awesomeness. I don't think it's our fault, i think it's conditioned in our culture at this point - somewhere along the way, taking credit for our success or seeing ourselves in a positive light without nitpicking the small stuff became frowned upon.
While changing the light in which you see yourself and your success is no easy feat, there are some easy ways in which you can begin to show yourself some lovin'. You can affirm your awesome.
This is something i started doing about a year ago, just before i found SWL. I found that when i was trying to fall asleep at night, my brain was running wild with all the little things that had gone wrong throughout the day. It would make it very hard to fall asleep, and so i started to talk myself through it with simple affirmations. Weirdly enough, my affirmations are "you are worthy, you are loved" (i was definitely meant to find SWL haha). I found that after getting cozy and taking a few deep breaths, repeating those affirmations to myself took my stress headaches and anxiousness away. They become almost meditative, and seem to actually aide in my falling asleep a bit better!
It's as easy as that! If you find yourself to be particularly harsh toward some aspect of your life, create an affirmation around it! We are not perfect human beings, but we don't have to be. Cut yourself some slack and tell yourself how awesome you are each day.