Rising Strong. The Reckoning. The Rumble. The Revolution. By Brene Brown
Description by: Mallory Ellington
I make up stories in my head every day, but rarely are they “once upon a times” with a “happily ever after.” Instead they are stories I create about my own worth and value based on the actions and words of those around me. I take failures and translate them into “I am a failure.” I take lack of invitations and translate it into “No one wants to be my friend, no one wants me around.” And I know that I am not the only one spending her days with these thoughts and a million more swirling around in her head. Brené Brown makes that clear.
Those stories I make up come from what she calls “arena moments” or “the reckoning”, those times we find ourselves face down on the dirt floor of an arena, moments that hurt and cause us to wonder what is happening around us. Brené teaches us that these moments are crucial, that what we do next matters. Do we let the stories we make up rule our world? Or do we take control of our stories, do we get curious about where we are and the emotions that are welling up within? It should come as no surprise that Brené places incredible value on the second method – on getting curious, what she calls “the rumble.” She emphasizes how important it is to think about the emotions we are feeling and the stories we are creating as a result. So often we are taught to push our emotions aside and keep moving forward, but in doing that we are missing out on a crucial component of our lives. When we wrestle with what we feel and what we think we can begin to reshape our lives, we can be vulnerable and honest. This is where “the revolution” begins. It is putting into practice what Brené calls the “Rising Strong Process.” It is where we become the authors of our stories through our ability to be vulnerable, recognizing that our emotions and made up stories come from a place of hurt. Brené wants her readers to understand that living this process makes our lives better because it allows us to live with wholeheartedness which in turn allows us to be better at loving, leading, and parenting.
I am looking forward to applying what I learned in Rising Strong to my own life. I often found myself relating to what Brené was describing, from making up stories to how I handle hard emotions. She put into words various struggles that I, and so many others face. She does so with plenty of her personal experience and funny stories along the way showing that she lives out what she teaches. What we feel and think is important and while it is hard to be vulnerable it is for our benefit and the benefit of those around us. So swl fam, let’s pursue a life of vulnerability and honesty. Let’s be real when we are making up stories about our worth because here we all want to shine the truth that we are all worth loving.